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Your First Time Using Fleshlight
So you have just received your package from the shipper! WOW, you're excited, can't wait to get going. Balls fully loaded with cum, your dick begging to be released from its captivity, and your heart racing as you hold the package and are rushing to your room to open it! What can you expect that first time using it to be like?
The truth is that it's great for some and not so great for others. Do you remember the first time that you took driving lessons? You might have been the lucky person who sat down behind the wheel and was ready to take on rush hour traffic on the highway right away, or you might have been more timid and worried and, frankly, scared. That's just the way it is. And similarly with Fleshlight. Some people figure out how to use Fleshlight within 3 milliseconds, while others take a few rounds of use to find the best experience for them. That's completely normal.
Here are some things I learned from many people who wrote about their first experiences using Fleshlight. There are several factors that contribute to a letdown and not-so-great experience (see below). I also learned that you should not form any opinion about Fleshlight until you have a few uses under your belt. And I learned that for most people, whether they enjoyed it immediately or whether they took a bit of time to get used to it, things get a lot better with continued use.
So here are a few issues that you might encounter on first using the Fleshlight, with input from LubeNLuv and MusicMan51 (thanks guys!):
- You are too used to using your hand and squeezing your pecker to literally strangle the cum out of it. Using Fleshlight is much more like penetrative sex and will feel differently and require different techniques than just standing over the toilet and choking your willy. And it may take some time to get your cock re-sensitized to the feelings associated with penetrative sex.
- You're not using enough lube, not enough warming, or not enough mental preparation, and you're in too much of a hurry. And understandably so, but just like your first time with a sex partner, doing it that way is sure to rush what could otherwise be a very enjoyable experience. Warm the insert up properly, use a lot of lube, and take your time. The first time should be in your bedroom when you know you'll be left alone for awhile. Turn off the phone, light a candle, whatever you need to do to give yourself some quality me time. Humping it cold with just spit while the delivery guy is still backing out of the driveway is not going to get you anywhere but disappointed.
- You did not get into the mental game of fucking it like you would when making love with your partner. If you need help getting aroused, you might use porn, or any other erotic imagery that you prefer (real or imagined), to get truly into the moment.
- Your expectations might be set a tad too high. The Fleshlight is a wonderful substitute for masturbation, and a great improvement on it. But it is not a replacement for a hot, wet, willing and extremely aroused partner. It's different. Don't expect it to be the same.
- The suction effect on the Fleshlight is adjustable with the small end cap. Some people take a bit of time to figure out how to use the end cap effectively. Give yourself that time. Common mistakes include tightening the end cap completely, which makes getting into the insert very hard, or leaving it completely off, which will make the Fleshlight feel a lot looser than you're used to. Play with it till you get it right! This part of the Fleshlight is really magic, and a major differentiator from other sex toys for men.
- The last big factor is that you're used only to masturbation by hand, because you haven't lost your virginity yet with a partner. If you only have your fist to compare the Fleshlight experience to, you will be surprised by how different the Fleshlight feels, and you will not realize how closely in fact the Fleshlight mimicks penetrative sex with a super-wet super-excited partner. Luckily being a virgin is neither a crime nor unfixable. And using a Fleshlight will in fact prepare you very well for the sensations you will experience during your first sexual encounter, so you can approach that part of it with a sense of confidence.
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